Prioritize Life Choices

Exercise is one of the secret magical natural antidepressant’s pills.

(Some types of depression).

by Raquel Torres

This topic may sound complex, boring, or repetitive, but I think it’s very interesting and that this information can help us to prioritize our life choices better.

The title above reads “some types of depression” because there are many different diagnosis for depression, which can be categorized into at least 5 different types with certain contributing factors and symptoms characterizing each type: Major depression, Persistent Depression Disorder, Bipolar disorder, SAD (seasonal affective disorder), and Post-partum Depression.

This is an article about reviewed research regarding how exercise plays a basic role in coping with some types of depression, even some can be totally cured, this information is a collection of data from recent scientific studies and investigations about this important topic.

Did you know?

  • People with NPD or narcissistic tendencies sometimes show a pattern of manipulative, controlling behavior that involves one or both verbal abuse and emotional manipulation, always a sense of entitlement, low empathy or fake empathy, an extreme need for admiration and attention, they envy others or they believe others envy them. This all falls under the umbrella of narcissistic abuse.
  • Malignant narcissists (over or covert / male or female) will often employ several tricks, including gaslighting, blackmailing, smear campaign, defamation, manipulating other’s into doing what they want. Gaslighting is a form of abuse where the narcissist undermines other’s reality by denying facts and other’s feelings.
  • People who face emotional and psychological abuse or narcissistic abuse during childhood or a relationship have a compromised CNS (Central Nervous System) has the abuse has profound effect on the CNS. The terrible impact of the emotional abuse is seriously detrimental to the person’s mental health, causing anxiety and depression.
  • However, many children recover from the early-life emotional abuse gradually, but the trauma does make them over sensitive and makes them helpless against narcissists. Even normal people who are emotional and good-natured undergo similar changes in their brains and psyche leading to anxiety and depression.
  • Narcissistic abuse leads to anxiety and depression as narcissists relentlessly target their victims till, they are unable to reason clearly, due to gradual adrenal fatigue and intense stress. Many victims are unable to escape from their abusers, as their anxious state resulting from the effects of being in an abusive relationship prevents them from taking steps away for their benefit. Some victims are not even aware that they are being systematically targeted and emotionally abused and manipulated and stay with their narcissistic abusers their whole lives.
  • More than 50% of anxieties and depression commonly develop in the world is because of narcissistic abuse.
  • That nearly 1 in 4 women have experience violence by narcissistic spouse or boyfriend.
  • 7 million children in United States live in families in which severe partner violence (physical or/and mental) occurred.
  • That on average more than three women a day are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in the United States.
  • Statistics shows that females are much more likely than males to be victimized by a current or former “partner”.
  • People who have experienced domestic violence are 90 % more likely to have PTSD, also 80% more likely to have stroke or heart disease than those who have not experienced partner mental/physical violence.

What is depression?

Depression (major depressive disorder) is a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act. Fortunately, it is also treatable. Depression causes feelings of sadness and/or a loss of interest in activities you once enjoyed. It can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems and can decrease your ability to function at work and at home.

Depression symptoms vary from mild to severe and can include:

  • Feeling sad or having a depressed mood
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed
  • Changes in appetite — weight loss or gain unrelated to dieting
  • Trouble sleeping or sleeping too much
  • Loss of energy or increased fatigue
  • Increase in purposeless physical activity (e.g., inability to sit still, pacing, handwringing) or slowed movements or speech (these actions must be severe enough to be observable by others)
  • Feeling worthless or guilty
  • Difficulty thinking, concentrating, or making decisions Thoughts of death or suicide

There is no doubt that being in a toxic relationship with a narcissist is traumatic. Narcissistic abuse and gaslighting are particularly maddening and traumatizing forms of psychological abuse.

In basic terms ‘trauma’ is an experience, whether it’s a one-off event, series of events or an ongoing situation or relationship that fundamentally threatens your sense of safety or security. Experiencing a mixture of the two is known as complex PTSD or C-PTSD.

Symptoms of C-PTSD in Narcissistic Abuse include:

* Feeling stuck (and confused about why).
* Having nightmares or flashbacks.
* High level of hyperarousal; anxiety, nervousness, feeling jumpy, obsessive thinking, racing thoughts, feeling scared, agitated, stressed, overwhelmed, emotional, etc.
* Difficulties controlling emotions.
* Imagining ‘worse-case’ scenarios.
* Guilt / Shame.
* Feeling numb / zoning out / disconnected / dissociative.
* Fatigue & extreme tiredness.
* Physical manifestation of trauma and abuse, e.g., headaches, tummy aches, chest pains, dizziness, tingling limbs, nausea, IBS, unexplained physical or somatic ailments…
* Unhealthy coping strategies – self-harm, eating issues, alcohol, drug, prescription meds abuse.
* Suicidal thoughts/fantasies.

I am not a certified psychologist and I’m not looking to be one, I did 4 years in business administration, then a master’s in business logistics and later an MBA, a total of 8 years of serious studying after my high school graduation. I am just genuinely interested in some psychological and mental health topics, since I had the experience like (some) empathic goodhearted humans of going through different types of abuse, I strongly believe that the misinformation about basics on psychology can cause a lot of damage for some type of humans, at different levels, different degrees of severity and the total time of the abuse.

I spent close to ten years learning from different doctors and authors like: Dr. Romani, Dr. Bruce Lipton, Sadhguru, Dr. Deepak Chopra, Dr. Seth Meyer, Jerry Wise, Dr. Antonio de Vicente, Rebecca Zung, Dr. Les Carter, Dr. Terri Cole, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Abraham Hicks, Dr. Rhonda Patrick, Dr. Charles Raison and many others. I wish I knew about all of them and about all this 10 years ago; but it’s never too late.

I invested extensive hours researching and learning about personality disorders and psychological/mental abuse, plus I was diagnosed with a C-PTSD type of depression after several maligning narcissistic abuses, as well as other types of abuses and life circumstances. While I was competing for around 7 years (2012-2019) as elite professional triathlete internationally, during those years I was having many heavy toxic stressors at the same time, nobody is immune to emotional abuse and depression. It is worth to share that I never took any type prescribed medicine for that, I went to a good psychologist in one of my worst situations and she really helped me by giving me good advice, empowering myself, highlighting my good qualities like my strength and intelligence, she recommended me to adopt a dog, which was the best decision ever, my new dog would be one of my medicines, as well as educating myself on these topics, working on my basic priorities, a lot of endurance exercises at high level (high performance triathlon), some yoga and time.

Specifically, I dedicated a lot of time and energy learning about narcissistic abuse and many other personality disorders. Since I embodied the experience of improving my mental health with endurance sport after having the consequences of a long depression stage after being abused intermittent for several years, again by different stressors and life situations, I in the past didn’t have strong personal boundaries and many times I did choose to lower my values standards, trying to “be nice”, I was, now and then, “tolerating” and sacrificing my values, my positive energy, my capacity, my intelligence, my hard work and even my personality.

Mental health or mental diseases are an unlimited universe with many shades, shapes, and spectrums, some psychology discoveries are still very new or not popular, many people do not know this, others don’t want to learn or talk about this, many “not good psychologists” in the market re-victimize or judge in a passive aggressive way the “victims” of abuse making them feel like they are responsible, or they provoked the abuse. Studies show that many psychologists, like in any industry, are also narcissistic, or are covert psychopath or/and sociopath abusers themselves.


Raquel Torres is a Triathlon Coach and Professional Triathlete. Raquel also writes blogs for several magazines and her team Athletic Mentors. Since May 2021 she contributes as a columnist with CNY Latino Newspaper. She shares true life stories with her experiences, also tips and tactics that helps anyone to be their best version. To read about her, head over to and search for her by her name. You can also send questions or comments about her column to the following email:

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